Why accusing women of being mean to other women, just distracts us from having real conversations.
You probably know all about the Nicki Minaj twitter row with Taylor Swift yesterday, so I won’t bore you too much with all the details! But in case you couldn’t care less and haven’t read any of the trashy celeb news…I’ll quickly fill you in.
Nicki Minaj tweeted MTV asking why her Anaconda video hadn’t been nominated for video of the year, despite it breaking records for the most viewed video in 24 hours. With that, Nicki then went on to tweet about how if she was a different kind of artist (slim and white) her videos would have been nominated.
Now I don’t know if Nicki woke up that day and decided she wanted to start a war with Taylor Swift or whether she did want to highlight the “real” reasons as to why her videos weren’t nominated. But Taylor decided to rear her head and get involved by replying to Nicki’s tweets….
Nicki apparently confused – wrote to Taylor saying she had not once mentioned Miss Swift (which is true) despite maybe a couple of hints that seemed to describe Taylor (slim and white).
Regardless of the reasons why we think Nicki started her twitter rant, she did highlight something that is very true. Racism is still alive.
Despite her attempt to focus on what is still happening in the world as well as the music industry, a lot of people responded by accusing Nicki for pulling out the ‘racism card’ because of her anger towards not getting recognition for her video. To top it all off, Taylor’s fans also abused Nicki on twitter for being a mean-cyber bully to T-Swift. Ironic comes to mind when trolls start trolling trolls.
Nicki has fought back by saying that the media is portraying her as a bully just to hide away from the truth that is; Racism.
So why is it that instead of having a debate, women are quick to attack another for creating conflict in the sisterhood?
When Taylor chimed in, it changed the conversation from woman versus institution to woman versus woman. Ironically, this is exactly the complaint Swift levelled against Minaj: “It’s unlike you to pit women against each other.”
Of course there is no way we can hide that sometimes women can be very mean to other women. I’m not really sure if I can class myself as a feminist, but I do know that online-rows like this one, will only fuel frustrating stereotypes such as the old-school gem that ‘women can’t get along with each other and therefore can’t be taken seriously’.
The last thing us girls need to do is fight harder against each other when we’re already fighting for equality with men.
But don’t get me wrong – women being nice to each other doesn’t define feminism or guarantee its future. We should all be able to have a healthy debate and not pull out the ‘you’re being mean’ card. Especially when we’re talking about something so serious.
Towards the end of the infamous row, Nicki did reply to Taylor saying that she too didn’t want any bad blood (I’ve added that bit in) and that she ‘loved’ Miss Swift just as much. Unfortunately Tay-Tay swiped back (obviously still bitter and hurt) with no regard to the racial issues Nicki had highlighted. Instead Taylor’s comment was a reminder of her success and a wish that all issues could be resolved with friendship.
“If I win, please come up with me!! You’re invited to any stage I’m ever on.”
In the words of Nicki Minaj – Huh?