It made me laugh recently when I read Taylor Swift’s interview in this month’s issue of Glamour magazine. T-Swiz has claimed that the media has made her feel ashamed for having two boyfriends in one year. How the public have labelled her as ‘boy crazy’ and humiliated her to the point where she no longer wants to date. Thankfully two weeks has passed and she’s now dating Calvin Harris (phew!) The reason it made me laugh is because I totally know where she is coming from!
I can’t hide the fact that I’ve been a bit of a Taylor myself and have in fact dated two guys in one year. *thinks to herself* No that’s wrong – I’ve actually dated three men in a year! Trust me, I’m not bragging and trust me, I don’t want to be labelled as a ‘slut’, as I’m sure some people would love to believe. I could argue until I go blue in the face but my “number” always shocks people (It’s low by the way). I may have dated a lot of people but it doesn’t mean I’ve slept around!
I’m a traditionalist and I like to keep my cards close to my chest. I’ve never had a one night stand and out of all of my friends – I am pretty much a nun! Well, maybe not. What I’m trying to say is, who actually cares?
If I have a daughter I’m going to tell her to date as many people, as safely as she can. I’m not talking just sex here. I want my daughter to learn from whoever she hangs out with, whether that leads to sexual encounters or friendship.
People make other people grow. There’s a lot of things that I now know and can do because of the people I dated. Choosing my time with certain people has taught me many things and opened my eyes. If I hadn’t gone for dinner or on holiday with these people, then I probably wouldn’t be the lady that I am today!
So next time, if you feel like shooting a girl down because she appears to be a ‘serial dater’. Stop. You’re just killing the feminist/equality vibe! Girls need to do what we want and who we want. And it needs to be on our terms and not influenced by the media or anyone’s opinion.
If you want to date person A but prefer person B. You do that. We only have one life. So be happy with whoever and whatever you do!